Many people love anal sex, and it can be so much fun, but only if you are careful and follow all the rules. Here, we will cover everything you need to know about butt play, how to stay safe, and what toys you can use.
Look for a Toy With a Flared Base
The first rule of sex toys designed for anal play is that you need to find one with a flared base. Vagina has an ending, and it ends with the cervix. The anal canal, on the other hand, does not. There is no stopping point, and the worst types of toys you can use for anal play are those without a base.
If you try one out, there is a chance that the toy will completely enter the anal canal, and it will be lost forever. You will have to buy a new one! All jokes aside, the only way to remove the toy completely inserted into the rectum is to visit the ER. Needless to say, it might be a bit embarrassing for you, and we imagine people wouldn’t want others to know about their anal sex experiences.
Toys with a flared base, on the other hand, have a stopper at the end. The toy should be designed so that it can’t pass the sphincter, and it can be inserted only up to its base. So when you go shopping for a toy, look for its diameters. The base should be significantly wider than the biggest diameter of the toy. This is the only way to ensure you are playing safe and that you won’t need to visit the emergency room in the middle of the night.
Opt for Body-Safe, Nonporous Materials
The next thing on the list to discuss is materials. You need to find a toy that is safe for your body and that won’t cause complications or infection. This is the primary reason why silicone, metal, and glass toys are so popular. These are all nonporous materials.
When a material is porous, that means there are tiny holes and crevices on its surface. To simplify it, the material has pores. These openings can serve as a fertile ground for bacteria, and you will be at risk of infection or a disease if you continue using them. It is rather difficult to keep the toy clean, regardless of how careful you are.
If you own a sex toy made from a porous material, the safest option is to always use it with a condom. This way, you will be a lot safer compared to the alternative. Of course, if you are shopping for a new toy, just ignore everything made from porous materials.
For Easier Entry, Insert a Toy With a Pointed Tip Into the Anus at an Angle
As you probably know already, butt stuff requires more attention and focus, at least if you want to enjoy it. This means that you can’t just shove a toy into your butt and start pleasuring yourself. One of the first rules of anal play is to start slow. You’re not in a hurry, and you need to take your time to feel good.
Instead of inserting the toy into the anus at a perpendicular angle (90 degrees), try pushing it inside at an angle. Just tip it slightly to the side and start inserting it. Furthermore, try to find a toy with a pointed tip since it will allow you to put it in the anus easily.
To Help You Relax, Try Deep Breathing and a Vibrating Toy — And Don’t Forget Non-Anal Stimulation
The only way to enjoy anal is if you are relaxed. Any type of stress or pressure might cause your sphincter to be tighter than it’s supposed to be. One of the ways you can help is to try deep breathing before your butt play.
Moreover, vibrating butt plugs are always an excellent choice. The toy is designed to provide new levels of pleasure, and it can help you relax your sphincter. Needless to say, you shouldn’t ignore other parts of your body. Non-anal stimulation is rather important, even if your primary focus is on anal play.
The logic behind this is simple. Foreplay and other forms of stimulation can help you enjoy yourself and relax your entire body. As a result, you will be able to insert the anal plug (or any other toy) more easily.
The Right Lube Is Non-Negotiable
Finally, using a lubricant is an essential part of anal sex. It doesn’t matter if you have a stainless steel or silicone toy. All materials and toys require lubricant for anal play. The anus does not self-lubricate. It is nearly impossible to enjoy anal without using a proper lubricant, so this is something you need to consider.
Now, picking the right type of lubricant is the next big issue. You need to find something that’s compatible with both anal play and the material of your toy. Silicone-based lubes can be a great choice, but only if you don’t own a silicone toy. If this is the case, silicone lube might degrade the toy, and it poses a health risk. Of course, if you have a metal or glass toy, silicone lubricants are a popular choice. They last longer, remain effective in water, and can be less irritating for the butt.
For those that own a silicone toy, the best option is to go for water-based lubes. It is also the safest option if you don’t want to worry about anything or if you don’t know the material of your toy.
Either way, lubricants are a must for butt play, and you can be as generous as you want. The more lubricant you use, the less likely you are to irritate your butt. So try to relax, find an appropriate lube, and take your time. If you follow all of these steps, you will understand why so many people love anal sex.
