Do you really need sex toys to have better sex? To answer this question, let’s take a look at another one. Do you need a car to travel to another city? No, but it fucking helps. All jokes aside, there are numerous reasons why you might get yourself a sex toy. Needless to say, adult toys are not for everyone, and they aren’t necessary if you want to enjoy sex. To each their own, but there are many things you might consider before you decide whether or not you want to bring a change to your bedroom.
Here, we will discuss everything you need to know about using sex toys and whether they will improve the quality of your private time.
Sex Toys Are Everywhere
Sex toys have been around for quite a while. Thousands of years ago, people used different objects as dildos. Ancient toys were made of wood, metal, stone, and even bread. (Yes — bread. Look it up). And things haven’t changed much since. People still love sex toys, and you can find them nearly everywhere.
While sex shops are quite common in big cities, you can find them even in smaller towns now. And even if that’s not the case, there are so many stores that sell their products online, and you’ll be able to get your hands on a brand new sex toy in no time.
People are becoming more open about their sexual relationships, preferences, kinks, and everything else. As a result, the popularity of toys is growing by the day. Especially today. Yup! Thanks to the pandemic, many people are forced to stay at home, and they are looking for ways to spice up their sex lives.
While there is still a little bit of taboo and stigma around sex toys, it is not nearly as bad as it used to be a couple of decades ago. Owning a sex toy today means nothing, and there is a high chance that no one would bat an eye. Furthermore, people are finally talking about the importance of sexual health, and nearly everyone is recommending sex toys, from therapists to porn videos.
Vanilla Sex
Vanilla sex is the most common type of sex, and it involves anything the majority deems normal or traditional. That means that there are no elements of BDSM, fetishes, or kinks. People often believe that vanilla sex means that the couple will only do it in the missionary position and that they will never do anything unusual or kinky. But that doesn’t have to be true.
As for enjoyment, there are many people who believe that vanilla sex is less enjoyable. However, we need to take into consideration the people involved in the act. If they enjoy vanilla sex (in missionary), and if they find using sex toys, elements of BDSM, and everything else unpleasant, then this is the right way to go. There is no reason for you to try anything that you don’t want to try. If vanilla sex is what floats your boat, then stick with it.
Those who are looking for something more might find it dull, but that’s their problem. Not everything needs to be standardized, and there are no rules when it comes to sex, except for consent.
Now that we’ve covered this, we should mention that there are many toys geared toward vanilla couples. Sometimes, people want to try something new, and they shouldn’t jump straight into buying anal beads. Some elements of BDSM, like blindfolds and handcuffs, are quite common for vanilla couples, and that might be a way to go if you want to try something new. Other than that, dildos are always the safest option.
Pros and Cons of Sex Toys
Many people claim that adult toys can improve your sex life, and that is true. But there are still some things that you need to know before you try them. Here, we will take a look at the advantages and disadvantages of sex toys and how they can affect both men and women.
The most obvious advantage of sex toys is variety. You can find nearly anything you can imagine. The most common toys are dildos and butt plugs, and both are an excellent way to increase sexual pleasure. For males, vibrating cock rings are a great option too. Ladies’ toys usually focus on penetrative sex, but some go for clitoral or anal stimulation. It’s up to you to decide whether you want to use them alone or with a partner.
Adult toys are an excellent way to get to know your (and your partner’s) body and see what makes you feel good.
When it comes to the downsides of these gadgets, some are too big and too complex for you to enjoy alone. If you never owned a sex toy in your life, it might be difficult to find something suitable. It’s not like you can try them out in the store to see which one is the best, after all.
You will also need to worry about maintenance and cleaning, and you need to know a lot about materials, for example, which of them can be used with lubricants. Finally, many people believe that you can get used to sex toys and that it will diminish your time with a partner.
Our Verdict
Bringing sex toys into your life should be exciting and fun. If you don’t feel the same way, there is no reason for you to try them. Don’t let other people persuade you into doing something you’re not comfortable with.
A lot of people love all the options the use of sex toys in bed brings them, and there are many who don’t. It is up to you to do what makes you feel best. And there is nothing wrong with sticking to the same routine if that’s something you love.
There is no right answer to our original question, and the only way to have incredible sex is to do what feels good for you. Always keep in mind that the whole point of sex is to feel amazing and enjoy yourself and your partner. So, talk to them, hear what they have to say, and do what’s best for you. No one else is important.
